Comments on: A dialogue between husband and wife, Part 4 http://blog.gurdas.com/2007/10/05/a-dialogue-between-husband-and-wife-part-4/ A bouquet of flowers picked along the way .... Fri, 27 Jan 2012 11:08:11 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ By: gurdas http://blog.gurdas.com/2007/10/05/a-dialogue-between-husband-and-wife-part-4/#comment-953 Fri, 13 Nov 2009 19:55:43 +0000 http://guldasta.wordpress.com/2007/10/05/a-dialogue-between-husband-and-wife-part-4/#comment-953 Rankin, thanks for letting me know. I will load the page in Firefox and Opera and report the issue to wordpress team.

]]> By: Rankin http://blog.gurdas.com/2007/10/05/a-dialogue-between-husband-and-wife-part-4/#comment-948 Sat, 07 Nov 2009 01:31:55 +0000 http://guldasta.wordpress.com/2007/10/05/a-dialogue-between-husband-and-wife-part-4/#comment-948 hi there, I can’t find your contact information but your web design was off on firefox and opera. Anyways, i just suscribd to your rss.

]]> By: Gagan http://blog.gurdas.com/2007/10/05/a-dialogue-between-husband-and-wife-part-4/#comment-845 Wed, 13 May 2009 02:08:04 +0000 http://guldasta.wordpress.com/2007/10/05/a-dialogue-between-husband-and-wife-part-4/#comment-845 It is heart-warming to know that you feel the sadness of those couples.. esp. considering the fact that you yourself are not married yet! I think thats one of the vitues of a good writer.. to “feel” without experiencing..

]]> By: gurdas http://blog.gurdas.com/2007/10/05/a-dialogue-between-husband-and-wife-part-4/#comment-844 Tue, 12 May 2009 23:02:29 +0000 http://guldasta.wordpress.com/2007/10/05/a-dialogue-between-husband-and-wife-part-4/#comment-844 Gagan: Well said. Yes, all those and a few more are the reasons marriages fail. And failure does not necessarily mean divorce. If I have to pick one word, I would say the exit of togetherness marks failure.
But what saddens me most are those failed marriages where neither party had a marked flaw. Both desire a fulfilling life with their partners, and yet end up distanced. Those are the ones that have communication failure as the BIG reason. And those are the ones which could have been saved by just talking and sharing.

]]> By: Gagan http://blog.gurdas.com/2007/10/05/a-dialogue-between-husband-and-wife-part-4/#comment-841 Tue, 12 May 2009 14:20:14 +0000 http://guldasta.wordpress.com/2007/10/05/a-dialogue-between-husband-and-wife-part-4/#comment-841 Hi Gurdas –

Thanks for your reply. I really appreciate your promise to write the story on the other side of the coin. I will be looking forward to it, and whenever you do, please let me know.

That being said, I will just add more to the reasons of the married relationships falling apart.. Communication is definetly one of them. But I think.. it does not fall apart again by iteslf.. Yet there are other problems, ego – the notion that “I” cannot be wrong, being un-comprising, un-adjusting and denial for changing yourself or even not realizing that there is something wrong with me, in search for a “perfect” partner – and not realizing that if you are ready to change a bit – to accept a bit – the relation can become harmonious, your family is your family but my family is ours, regional typecast – the notion that the people on the the other side of world or even the other side of nation are crooked/dumb/selfish etc., religious typecasting – like all Muslims are alike, and may be many more….
Well, a lot said :-) Anyways Gurdas..
Do keep up the good work.. Keep writing and keep sharing your stories..
All the very best to you and God Bless.

Gagan

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