Guldasta

A bouquet of flowers picked along the way ….

run to you June 19, 2009

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In a distant land, on a hot, dry day, my thoughts wander to younger years. I would return home from school around 3 pm, preoccupied with thoughts of playing. What would follow is a battle of wits between mother and me. She would like me to stay at home until the afternoon has mellowed and the Sun isn’t scorching hot. I was of the opinion that the Sun is too trivial a reason to stop me from playing. Usually mother had her way.

But sometimes I would cheat. Upon reaching home, I would slip my fingers into the crack between the window shutters, open the window, throw my school bag in, and run. The bag always landed on the bed mother used for sleeping, so she would wake up and shout after me “come back, it is too hot!” That 12 year old Gurdas could not have cared less. In fact, I’d be running as fast as my legs could go and probably be out of earshot by the time mother would wake up.

Today, I can hear her voice playing in my head and notice how much love there is. I wish my mother was around to scold me for that too is laden with love. She is old, her skin has wrinkled, and old age has settled in. But mother, this son of your is a kid who wants to hear your voice, feel your caress, plant a kiss, and get wrapped in a hug. And mother, June is still hot and I still want to run away. Only this time I want to run to you.

 

Reading aloud – the sound of a fantasy May 20, 2009

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Serendipity: A chance walk-in into a bookshop. A chance sight of more than one translation of Siddhartha. An impromptu reading aloud activity by two individuals to compare the translations. Moments of bliss.

Some pleasures in life have no substitute. Like reading aloud to someone with a receptive mind. Or being read aloud by someone with a perceptive mind. I have lost count of how many times I have fantasized about this activity. And once in a while somebody would oblige me, like the other day when we read aloud passages from Siddhartha. I could try write an eulogy on the act of reading aloud, but the below excerpt from The New York Times expresses my thoughts better than I could possibly imagine.

“But listening aloud, valuable as it is, isn’t the same as reading aloud. Both require a great deal of attention. Both are good ways to learn something important about the rhythms of language. But one of the most basic tests of comprehension is to ask someone to read aloud from a book. It reveals far more than whether the reader understands the words. It reveals how far into the words — and the pattern of the words — the reader really sees.

Reading aloud recaptures the physicality of words. To read with your lungs and diaphragm, with your tongue and lips, is very different than reading with your eyes alone. The language becomes a part of the body, which is why there is always a curious tenderness, almost an erotic quality, in those 18th-  and 19th-century literary scenes where a book is being read aloud in mixed company. The words are not mere words. They are the breath and mind, perhaps even the soul, of the person who is reading.”

Some Thoughts on the Lost Art of Reading Aloud

 

Tea off at par friendships May 15, 2009

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I am an avid tea drinker. Not that I drink gallons of it, just that I cherish each sip. A well brewed cup of tea (and that rules out any tea made by a machine) can do wonders to my mood. I can get almost intoxicated.

And tea has led to many a memorable conversation with family, friends, and strangers. Once in a while, it plays a larger role and a whole friendship is built around it. That is what happened between me and The Patels who live on the floor above. Keta and Baiju Patel had moved to Raleigh a few weeks before I did and they immediately welcomed me into their lives. Baiju is an avid tea person. And Keta is almost a no tea person and yet her tea is worth every moment spent with the cup. 

Keta and Baiju, Fall 2008

Keta and Baiju, Fall 2008

 We would meet often for tea and talk. Recently, Keta went on an India trip for a marriage and during that six odd weeks, Baiju and I met almost every day for tea. Every day at 10 pm. It was something I would look forward to with enthusiasm. Our meeting would be short and yet packed with useful conversation. Baiju was here for a MS in Advanced Analytics and I was taking introductory courses in Statistics; so there was quite a lot of common ground for techie stuff to be discussed. Like today, Baiju educated me on “basket analysis”, something stores like Wal-mart and Family Dollar conduct to find the chain of products a particular shopper would buy. In very simple terms, which buyer will have what products (typically) in his/her shopping basket. And I led Baiju to some outdoor educational videos at REI. So, in that short 15-20 minutes, we had tea and came out better informed about something useful. And at the end of the meeting I would be refreshed and eager to get back to work. Tea plus conversation has that effect on me.

But, this is now coming to an end. The Patels are moving to Charlotte, where Baiju landed a job. I will miss the tea meetings terribly. And by the end of this summer, I will lose almost half of my closest friend circle at NC State. This makes me kind of sad. I take this opportunity to thank The Patels for opening the doors to their house and their hearts. I am wealthier having known you’ll. Bon voyage!

 

She shops the way I shop May 8, 2009

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Now, I have a million eccentricities. Fortunately, I am aware of these and so, my friends are spared their pain and horror most of the time. Most of the time. Of these queer personality traits, the way I shop is amongst the most developed.

And how do I shop? For starters, you wouldn’t want to accompany me. I am just so freaking choosy I can drive people mad. I could spend an entire evening trying to find a garment that fits me exactly the way I think it should. To prove my point, I have my own unique description of what constitutes a good fit. A good fitting garment is one which touches your body in the zones/areas where you enjoy being touched and does not touch your body in the zones/areas where you do not enjoy being touched. If this sounds nonsense to you, I would totally understand. And not just garments, I bring a whole new level of complexity to shopping for anything. Yes ANYTHING. It could be a pack of blank CDs, pencils, shoes, milk (!), ok you get the point. Like I said, the way I shop is a highly developed eccentricity.

And I have wondered how it would be to meet someone who shops the way I shop.

Now I know. Because the other day I went shopping with a friend and she was literally a copy-paste of me when it came to shopping. We spent hours trying to find a dress for her. And she had already spent hours the day before. And we had a final exam the next day. I couldn’t have cared less. Not when I was looking at a marvel – someone who shops the way I shop.

 

Adventures of a reluctant cook May 7, 2009

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A long time ago I had tried my hand at cooking. Things were going fine, until one day I burnt the food so bad the cooking dish had to be cleaned over a week! And then a few days ago I tried making an omelette. Well, it was not a failure, but I would hesitate to call it a success either. I singed my fingers, but more than that, my omelette resembled scrambled eggs. Anyway, this and the encouragement from friends had me going for the omelette again. Only this time, it was a certain disaster.

So, yesterday, I set the pan and added oil. I was using a flexible synthetic spatula and thought to myself that this could melt. Or maybe not? Isn’t it meant for cooking? Moving on, I let the oil heat while I poured the egg mix into a cup. I avoided buying whole eggs because that is too much trouble. Instead I bought this ready to cook egg thingy. I poured the eggs into the pan and tried moving the spatula. It would not! It had melted and was stuck to the bottom of my pan. The eggs were already in there, mixing with the melting plastic. I cursed and yanked the spatula away. That spilt some egg all over the kitchen counter. I was undeterred for today I was ready to fight for my omelette and so I decided to eat whatever I cook – plastic or no plastic.

I trashed the stupid plastic spatula and pulled out a metal one. Like a warrior pulling out his second sword in the battlefield after the first is shattered. And I attacked the eggs trying to separate them from the plastic. Bad idea. The plastic came off, but it pulled along some of the non-stick Teflon coating from the pan. I cursed, again. This must be the most nutritious omelette ever – man made plastic and teflon.

After a few more minutes of heroic efforts, I did have something edible. Now, not by a far margin did it resemble eggs, but then no was looking, right? I finally did consume my “omelette”.

But the million dollar question staring in my face is – should I continue to try cooking or just accept my failure? My neighbour’s comment upon hearing this tale were “I think you should not try cooking. You could set the house on fire.”